Most of us are living in a new reality, temporary as it will (hopefully) be. There have likely been many adjustments in your day-to-day lives, some of which are unwelcome.
While nobody knows for sure how long this will last, it’s very unlikely that we will get back to exactly the way things were anytime soon, if ever.
That last part, “if ever”, is not meant to be alarmist, I’m just making the point that when such fundamental and widespread events happen in society at large, they create some displacements that end up being permanent in nature.
We just don’t know what they’ll look like yet.
Not the Beginning, Not the End Either
So it’s safe to say that we’re not at the end of this ordeal yet, and we are no longer at the beginning. You could say that we’re somewhere “in the middle”.
Unfortunately, I think we’re still way closer to the beginning, but hopefully I’ll be proven wrong (it’s been known to happen).
It’s a process that we’re moving through, and while decades from now it will seem like an “event”, right now, while we’re in it, it feels like it’s moving quickly, while in other ways it feels like it’s going too slowly.
Extreme Reactions, or Middle of the Road?
Another way to think about this week’s theme of “the middle” is that “Goldilocks” place I think we should all be striving for, in terms of how we’re responding to things.
Last week I went to my local liquor store, and had to wait in line outside, since they were intentionally limiting the number of customers inside, to increase personal space for everyone.
The man minding the line-up was asking us to be nice to the employees, because evidently some customers were less than nice earlier that day.
He then shared his thoughts about the kinds of people he was seeing. I’ll give it to you in colloquial Quebec French first, then translate:
“Y’en a qui s’en foute, y’en a qui capote, et il y a le reste, dans le milieu”
Loosely “There are those who don’t give a crap, those who are freaking out, and the rest, in the middle”.
Sometimes it’s good to be in the middle.
Middle of the Crowded House
Another change that many of us are being forced to deal with is the “crowded house” phenomenon arising from so many “stay-at-home” orders.
I was on a Zoom call recently with 16 people from nine different countries, and the vast majority were working from home, while the few exceptions were in very small offices.
The “stuck in the middle” title of this blog came from this idea that many people are now suddenly all being forced into staying together for much longer periods of time than usual, typically for longer than they’d prefer.
Luckily some warmer weather is finally arriving, even in Canada, that will allow us all more opportunities to at least get some fresh air from time to time.
Feeling Stuck – Usually Not Good
Enough about the middle, which isn’t necessarily a bad place to be.
But feeling “stuck”, well, that’s rarely good, and for some people, that might be a feeling that is currently resonating with them, and not in a good way.
I want to share some thoughts on this, that can hopefully offer a new perspective on looking at our new reality.
There is clearly some upheaval going on everywhere right now, which means that things are changing.
If everything in your life was going well before, then change is not something you were necessarily hoping for, I get that.
But it’s here now, so it makes sense to acknowledge that things are changing and trying to think about what you can do now to be prepared.
Where Is This Going?
Unfortunately, nobody knows where this will end, and the only person I can control is me.
I’m spending a lot of time reflecting and being grateful for what I do have, and trying to think of ways to be a resource to those who could benefit from what I have to offer.
The rest will take care of itself. Stay well, stay safe, be kind.
Feel free to reach out for a Zoom call to chat. Yes, I mean it.
“Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right, here I am….”