Rest in Peace, While You’re Still Alive!
Every so often I have an “A-Ha” moment as a result of seemingly random discussions that occurred weeks apart.
Writing this blog allows me to process these in some sort of useful way.
Inner Peace Through Meditation
After months of hearing good things about meditation, I brought up the topic during one of our weekly coaching sessions.
Melissa mentioned an App called “Insight Timer” that she’d been using for a while, and suggested I try it out.
A good coach will mention plenty of ideas that a client might want to look into, and then it’s up to the client to act on them, or not.
I did act on this one, downloaded the App into my phone, and tried it out.
Long story short, I’m a big fan, and maybe even an addict.
What Was I Looking For?
A few weeks later, I mentioned that I was using Insight Timer a couple of times a day, and I was enjoying the ways it was making me feel.
Melissa noted that she thought it was pretty cool that I was working on finding “inner peace”.
I never said that I was looking for inner peace (did I?).
The truth is, I didn’t know what I was looking for when I decided to try it, and I’m not sure that I know what I found either.
Mr. Legler Is Resting in Peace
Weeks later, as we were starting our weekly call, she asked me something along the lines of “So, how is Mister Legler doing this morning?”
I pulled out the old “Mr.Legler? That was my father!” line that I often use when I feel like someone is being more formal than necessary.
“And, he died in 2008, so I guess he’s resting in peace”.
There it was again. Peace. “A-Ha”.
Seek and You Shall Find
So many questions were now bouncing around my brain, and, as usual, that meant that I’d eventually blog about this.
Did Mr. Legler need to die to find peace?
Did he find it there? Or did he find it before?
What about me, am I finding it?
Was it even what I was looking for, don’t I already have it?
Do you need to seek peace in order to find it?
Do some people search for it and never find it, while others just sort of have it without much searching?
Multi-Generational Peace Process
As usual, I’ll now attempt to take the subject of this post and introduce the family business angle, because that’s the area in which I claim to have some subject matter expertise.
Business families, almost by definition, involve people from different generations.
One of their goals is typically to find ways for the family business and/or wealth to move smoothly from the senior generation to the rising generation.
Okay, so what does “peace” have to do with all this?
Everything and Nothing
The quick answer is that peace has nothing to do with this at all. It’s the easy answer, and the one that many people would prefer.
Of course, that means that I’m interested in the other side, the one that says peace has everything to do with it.
Many families struggle with the important discussions and planning that are necessary to effectuate successful inter-generational wealth transitions.
Peace, Love, and Harmony
Families too often delay talking about how they will handle all the details around who will get what, and who will do what, precisely because they are worried about upsetting the peace and harmony that exists in the family.
In fact, they’ll do anything to avoid upsetting the peace.
In many cases, however, the harmony that seems to be there is actually rather fragile, precisely because of the uncertainty around what’s going to happen after the senior generation has passed.
Settle it Now, Reap the Peace Dividend
The lack of discussion leads to lack of clarity and adds uncertainty to both generations.
Those who take care of these things in advance reap what I’ll call the “peace dividend”
I like to think that Mr. Legler found peace while he was still alive because he had put his affairs in order and communicated everything to his family well in advance.
Don’t forget that peace dividend is shared by both generations.